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Sex, money, happiness, and death: the quest for authenticity

Author: Kets de Vries, Manfred F. R. INSEAD Area: Entrepreneurship and Family Enterprise Series: INSEAD business press series Publisher: Palgrave Macmillan, 2009.Language: EnglishDescription: 239 p. ; 24 cm.ISBN: 9780230577923Type of document: INSEAD BookOnline Access: Click here | Click hereNote: Doriot: for 2019-2020 coursesBibliography/Index: Includes bibliographical references and indexAbstract: Manfred Kets de Vries, Raoul de Vitry d’Avaucourt Clinical Professor of Leadership Development and Director of the INSEAD Global Leadership Centre, takes readers out of their comfort zone in his latest book, which has grown out of his conviction that many business academics have lost touch with the people they should be trying to help. His aim is twofold: to persuade executives to take time out to reflect on what really counts in their lives and to shake academics down from their ivory towers and make them more attuned to the real problems of real people, instead of trying to impress one another. Like Kets de Vries’s other work in psychoanalysis and leadership development, the essays in this book were inspired by stories told to him by executives. But they are not just business stories: the problems these stories identify are about the really big things in life – sex, money, happiness and death. “The time is right to deal with these issues,” he says, “as I am no longer young enough to know everything.” We all struggle with the sometimes conflicting demands of biology and society; the confusion of self worth and net worth; and the anxiety about whether what we are doing and where we are going will make us happy. And we all have to face the fact of death. In the most personal essay in this collection, Kets de Vries examines how we manage that knowledge and confrontation through an account of his own grief following the death of his mother. Arguing that “we stay young by focusing on our dreams rather than on our regrets”, the book concludes with an appeal for us all to live our lives authentically, to look forward, and to capture our own dreams.
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Includes bibliographical references and index

Manfred Kets de Vries, Raoul de Vitry d’Avaucourt Clinical Professor of Leadership Development and Director of the INSEAD Global Leadership Centre, takes readers out of their comfort zone in his latest book, which has grown out of his conviction that many business academics have lost touch with the people they should be trying to help. His aim is twofold: to persuade executives to take time out to reflect on what really counts in their lives and to shake academics down from their ivory towers and make them more attuned to the real problems of real people, instead of trying to impress one another. Like Kets de Vries’s other work in psychoanalysis and leadership development, the essays in this book were inspired by stories told to him by executives. But they are not just business stories: the problems these stories identify are about the really big things in life – sex, money, happiness and death. “The time is right to deal with these issues,” he says, “as I am no longer young enough to know everything.” We all struggle with the sometimes conflicting demands of biology and society; the confusion of self worth and net worth; and the anxiety about whether what we are doing and where we are going will make us happy. And we all have to face the fact of death. In the most personal essay in this collection, Kets de Vries examines how we manage that knowledge and confrontation through an account of his own grief following the death of his mother. Arguing that “we stay young by focusing on our dreams rather than on our regrets”, the book concludes with an appeal for us all to live our lives authentically, to look forward, and to capture our own dreams.

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Sex, Money, Happiness, and Death The Quest for Authenticity Contents Preface PART ONE: MEDITATIONS ON SEXUAL DESIRE 1 IN THE SHADOW OF MORTAL SIN THE LEGACY OF ADAM AND EVE SEX WITHOUT THE FUN GENE-DRIVEN SURVIVAL MACHINES? 3 5 8 12 2 THE CONTRADICTIONS OF DESIRE SEXUALITY: THE SNAKE UNDER THE CARPET ATTACHMENT BEHAVIOR WHAT'S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT? ROMANTIC LOVE 15 18 21 24 27 3 MARS MEETS VENUS EVOLUTIONARY PSYCHOLOGY AND PARTNER CHOICE A CHARACTER IN SEARCH OF BEING A CHARACTER "SOME DAY MY PRINCE WILL COME" 30 30 33 37 4 THE SEXUAL IMAGINATION BEING POLYMORPHOUS PERVERSE DIFFERENCES IN SEXUAL MINDSET SEX AND THE PASSAGE OF TIME HOW MUCH SEX IS ENOUGH? SEX AS A BATTLEFIELD THE QUESTION OF THERAPY 39 40 41 44 45 50 52 5 THE PLAY OF SEXUALITY THE FIRST CREATION: HALLUCINATING THE BREAST THE SIREN CALL OF THE CREATIVE INDIVIDUAL THE BOHEMIAN LIFE 54 56 56 58 6 LESSONS FROM THE BONOBOS GREATER EQUALITY BETWEEN THE SEXES INDEPENDENT DEPENDENCE FINAL REFLECTIONS 63 64 66 68 PART TWO: MEDITATIONS ON MONEY 7 THE SIN OF COVETOUSNESS A CASE OF WEALTH FATIGUE SYNDROME 73 75 8 THE INNER WORLD OF MONEY PANDORA'S BOX THE SYMBOLIC ROLE OF MONEY 79 79 81 9 IN PRAISE OF "FUCK-YOU" MONEY IN-YOUR-FACE MONEY WHEN GREENBACKS MAKE YOU GREEN WITH ENVY HAVING TOO MUCH MONEY 85 86 88 90 10 YOUR MONEY OR YOUR LIFE "MONEY CAN'T BUY ME LOVE" FORFEITING SATISFACTION FORFEITING INTIMACY FORFEITING TIME FORFEITING INTEGRITY FORFEITING HEALTH 94 94 95 96 97 98 101 11 THE ZEN OF MONEY LETTING GO OF MONEY 102 103 PART THREE: MEDITATIONS ON HAPPINESS 12 LOOKING FOR WILD STRAWBERRIES TAKING TWO JOURNEYS 109 110 13 THE ELUSIVE CONCEPT OF HAPPINESS SEARCHING FOR "PARADISE LOST" POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY 112 114 115 14 THE HAPPINESS EQUATION HAPPINESS FOR THE PURPOSE OF SURVIVAL CORRELATES OF HAPPINESS 117 118 119 15 OUR WELTANSCHAUUNG INTERNAL VERSUS EXTERNAL LOCUS OF CONTROL OPTIMISM VERSUS PESSIMISM EXTRAVERSION VERSUS INTROVERSION HIGH VERSUS LOW SELF-ESTEEM 124 126 128 129 130 16 DECONSTRUCTING HAPPINESS SOMEONE TO LOVE SOMETHING TO DO SOMETHING TO HOPE FOR 131 131 136 137 17 STRIKING THE RIGHT BALANCE LIVING A WHOLE LIFE VERSUS A DEFERRED LIFE OUTWARD SUCCESS VERSUS INNER SUCCESS 141 142 144 18 PUTTING THINGS IN PERSPECTIVE SOCIAL COMPARISONS 146 147 19 COPING WITH STRESS HEALTH AS A BANK ACCOUNT 150 151 20 HOMO LUDENS THE ROLE OF PLAY REGRESSION IN THE SERVICE OF THE EGO EXPLORATORY NEEDS 154 155 156 159 PART FOUR: MEDITATIONS ON DEATH 21 YOU DON'T GET OUT ALIVE TRAGIC MAN 165 166 22 THE DENIAL OF DEATH THE TRIUMPH OF IRRATIONALITY THE VICISSITUDES OF GRIEF THE STAGES OF GRIEF 168 169 170 175 23 DEATH AND THE HUMAN LIFE CYCLE INTEGRITY VERSUS DESPAIR 177 179 24 TRANSCENDING THE ULTIMATE NARCISSISTIC INJURY RITUALS OF DYING FEELING ALIVE 183 183 184 25 IMMORTALITY SYSTEMS WHERE ARE WE GOING? 188 188 26 DEATH IN OUR POST-INDUSTRIAL AGE MANAGING DEATH 196 198 27 GOING INTO THAT GOOD NIGHT LAST WORDS STAGES OF TRANSITION THE HOSPICE CARE SYSTEM 201 204 205 207 28 THE DYING OF THE LIGHT WHAT ABOUT YOU? THE NEXT GREAT ADVENTURE? Afterwords About the Author Suggested Bibliography Index 210 211 213 215 229 231 234

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